Every single doctor I went to told me I would need 6-12 months to start eating, sleeping and working again. That is if I started recovering today but I’ve only been getting worse over the last 5 months.
But here I was, a week later being able to sleep again. Working out and eating normally in another week. Starting my new job in another 2 weeks. I’m not saying it works to quickly for everyone but the mere fact it worked for me when I had given up is miraculous.
And it’s all because of that video mentioning the origin of depression and how it all roots in the subconscious. How you can trick it into thinking you’re actually OK which makes depression start to fade away. Bear with me! I don’t want you to miss the LOGIC behind this technique – otherwise you will just give up or relapse.
That same night I tried the technique the guy said he used and I FELT BETTER after just 15 min. of practice. The technique itself is actually so simple that most people won’t try it: You visualize that you’re feeling better and you get better.
But wait until you hear WHY and HOW it works. That’s where all the magic was.
WHY THIS EXACT VISUALIZATION WORKS
The human brain is both amazingly powerful and amazingly simple. Long story short, it has two frequencies of work: conscious and subconscious. Out of 150 000 years of evolution, only the last 4000 have been governed by the conscious mind. It’s easy to imagine most of our brain capacity and potential is still hidden in our subconscious. And it is. It rules all of our emotions, thoughts, feelings, enzyme and hormone secretion, etc.
Depression (as OCD, anxiety attacks, etc.) is a reaction of the subconscious brain to excessive stress. I can’t bold that enough: You’re depressed because your subconscious has undergone or is undergoing too much stress.
There you go: To recover, you only need to unwind and relax it. Which is both awfully hard and very simple.
But first – Why. Why does stress cause our brains to malfunction? Because 150 000 years of evolution have trained us that stress = danger. Stress strengthens concentration, reactions and pattern-recognition to escape danger. So it’s in fact a good thing, in small doses. But today we’re constantly overworked, underslept and unhappy, which make stress far greater than ever. It accumulates in our brain until it puts it out of order. Because to feel constantly stressed means you feel in constant danger. Your brain logically shuts off non-vital functions like metabolism, sleep, emotions, serotonin and dopamine production (happiness hormones). You don’t need to be happy when a bear is chasing you and you’re running for your life.
It sounds silly, but it’s true. The subconscious takes everything literally. It doesn’t make a difference between real danger and too much stress over a too long period.
Don’t hate it for doing what it does. In fact, now that you know that, you can turn things around, just like I did.
HOW IT WORKS
Like I said, your subconscious takes everything literally. It has no eyes. It cannot make a difference between real danger and feeling in danger. But here’s the key: It makes no difference between what’s real and what’s vividly imagined. This is equally true for positive emotions. If you can picture (or remember) being on the Eiffel Tower in Paris down to the last detail, your brain believes it 100%.
Let’s summarize: If you can really make your subconscious feel you’re getting better, you’ll start getting better. Fast.
Now we’re left with How. And here it gets better. And even more logical:
Your subconscious is the far faster and more powerful part of your brain. So powerful that it can heal you if only you choose to listen and speak its own language. But it doesn’t speak English. It speaks through our intuition (emotions, pictures). And it doesn’t understand English. Again, it understands emotions and vivid images.
If you intentionally project a different reality to it though visualizing things differently, it quickly starts believing you and seeking proof for those new beliefs.
Here’s how to make the visualizations:
1. Visualize your life with no sign of depression. Down to the last detail – what kinds of things you do, with whom you do them, how you look, where you hang out, how you feel, how you’re dressed, what new thoughts you think, how much energy you have.
2. Engage all your 5 senses. Imagine what the air feels like on your skin, what your favorite person smells like, what that delicious desert you’re eating tastes like, what that great song you’re listening to sounds like. Remember – you need to persuade yourself this is reality, if only for a while.
3. Do it in the present tense. Ignore this only being in your head and visualize all this happening now, in front of you, feeling awesome. It feels stupid at first, but I’m telling you – if this made me believe I could sleep and eat again, it can make YOU recover too.
4. Be patient. At first you might not do it well, so it might not work right away. But learning how to control your brain will change your life forever. Give it some time and patience. In my case 2 weeks were enough to get me back on my feet, feeling better than ever (not joking – Better. Than. Ever.). In your case they might be a little more, but they’re still worh it.
5. Dream big. There are no boundaries here. Visualize your life normal again, filled with positive people, amazing adventures, great friends and lots of love. Anything that makes your subconscious feel better, so it starts releasing the happiness hormones again.
6. Write it down! Writing makes visualizations slower, which in its own turn makes them more mindful. The first time I felt the change happening in my brain, I wrote it down. For the first week, I wrote it down every day, then I started updating it once a week and kept that habit for months.
7. Do it twice a day. Trying to trick your brain is tricky itself. First, it needs repetition and devotion. Don’t skip and if you accidentally do, NEVER skip twice (until you’ve recovered). Also, do it when you wake up and before you go to bed. That’s when you’re sleepy because your logic’s resistance is weaker then and your subconscious is more open to “inception”.
DON’T DO IT ALONE !!!
This is so important that I’ve put it separately.
You need help and support. Depression is a fierce enemy. Find a depression mentor. Someone who understands what you’re going through (any experience with depression is a great benefit) and will have your back no matter what.
If you can’t find such a person, DROP ME AN EMAIL at firstname.lastname@example.org – I’ve just finished writing my CHALLENGE GUIDEBOOK – a 40-page guide that will walk you step-by-step through the whole detailed system and all the tricks I used to recover – my routine, the physical and mental exercises, the habits I developed, etc.
Since I can’t answer all emails (I tried but just can’t), I’ve decided to give the Guidebook at a big discount to everyone who runs into my blog and needs my help.
I hope you’ve decided to try the visualizations above (please do!) – they are the most crucial part of recovering. But if they’re not enough, just send me an email at email@example.com with the subject “Guidebook” and I’ll send you a link to the book’s order page.